Mother’s Day is the perfect opportunity to celebrate and remember the people in our lives who helped guide us. On Fetch’s Instagram and Facebook, we asked Fetch app users who identified themselves as moms and mother figures what they really wanted for Mother’s Day. Over 1,100 responses revealed the true desires of moms around the country.
Buckle up, because you might be in for a surprise.
Time Matters Most
In over 21% of responses, moms simply wanted to spend time with their family. Whether sharing a meal or just hanging out together, this was the most desired way to spend Mother’s Day, especially among those with children who have grown up or moved away. One mom said: “Nothing from the store — just time together!” and another said, “I would love to be with my grown children ❤️”
On the flip side of that, there was a smaller percentage of moms (9%) who simply wanted some alone time or time away. “This isn’t a permanent request,” wrote one mom, “just some time alone ONE day 😉”
Focus on Experiences, Not Things
Although many of us think to buy our moms flowers or make them a card (more on that later), moms really want self-care experiences (20%), such as a spa day (think massages, manicures, pedicures, facials), more R&R time (naps and more Zzzs), or the opportunity to recharge through hobbies such as reading, gardening, or shopping. As one mom put it simply: “A day ALL to myself ( 100% self care).”
If you really want to go all out, treat her or give her the space to take a vacation or a trip, even if it is just for the day. One mom discussed wanting a vacation because “Mama needs to rest… on a nice beach sippin’ some piña coladas hahaha.” No joke: 8% of moms said that’s what they wanted for Mother’s Day.
Moms also wanted an escape from day-to-day responsibilities, asking for a clean or organized house (5%) or to avoid cooking (4%). “No housework,” wrote one mom, “including cooking for a week.”
They wouldn’t say no to a nice dinner either (8%), especially if their family is there with them. As one mom said, “We all lead such busy lives. Would love a dinner with my hubby, children, their spouses, and 4 grandchildren.”
Okay, Moms Want Stuff Too…Sometimes
When moms did ask for stuff (and 12% of them did), they wanted gift cards (when specified, Amazon and Target gift cards were the most popular) or cash. This flexibility allows them to spend the money on the things they want most. “I just want gift cards lols” wrote one mom.
Interesting side note, a handful of moms asked for plants and Fitbit devices.
Flowers, Phone Calls, Cards, and Well-Wishes
Classic gifts and gestures like flowers, phone calls, and homemade cards are usually the first things that come to mind when we talk about ways to celebrate Mother’s Day. While these aren’t out of fashion per se, they were some of the least mentioned things that moms said they wanted.
Just 3% asked for flowers, 1% wanted a card (some specified homemade), and 1% wanted a phone or video call. While one mom asked for “…flowers and cards from my kids,” another said, “A FaceTime call from my children & grandchildren!”
Shoutout to the selfless 1% that only wanted their family to be healthy and/or happy: “What I really want is just for my family to be healthy and happy and less stressed.”
Make This Year Count
When thinking about how to celebrate your mom or mother figure this year, consider spending time with her (bonus if you go out to dinner and she doesn’t have to cook!) or gifting her the opportunity for self care (spa day or weekend, anyone?) or the chance to shirk some of the chores (pay for a cleaner or cook some meals for her).
If you want her to decide, you can’t go wrong with a gift card or some cold, hard cash for her to treat herself with.
Finally, even though they weren’t asking directly for it, we’re sure if you showed up at your mom’s with flowers or a card, she wouldn’t shut the door in your face (make sure to stick around and spend time with her!). And if you call, we’re pretty sure she’ll answer. Unless she’s in the middle of snapping receipts with Fetch!